Pardon My French

There are two reasons I don’t think in terms of lifestyle D/s.

I will always need a fair amount of time under my own control, devoted to my own goals and purposes. Without that space in which I grow and evolve I would cease to be myself. Richard would wither.

Though I’ll confess that Destiny and chance - a couple of rare quality - prove it can be made to work. But rarity is by its nature uncommon.

Nor can I connect with is essentially an aspect of my sexuality with being edified or improved. Self-enhancement is mostly an internal process. Interaction with valued friends can bring clarity and focus to this unending project.

A top who is my friend, or my beloved can aid but by conversation, not correction.

Chastisement is a necessary part of the behavior modification of children to live within society. But will always fail on a mature human. And should an adult be immature surely he or she needs something other than educational discomfort.

Punishment can be sexy and fun but I can’t imagine it as a real tool for personal growth.

Richard (Down on my Knees)